Your Uniqueness Is A Gift
We have all often come across phrases like “I am not as good as he” or “I wish I had a house or money like theirs” or “Why does my life feel so behind compared to theirs?”
Despite all these different sentence constructions, they share a common element – comparison.
This characteristic of constant self-comparison, though human, is not innate.
Every person is born with their own set of virtues and vices, strengths and weaknesses. These qualities are like fingerprints, unique to each individual.
But the world teaches us to compare. We get compared, or we assess others. As time passes, we become part of this loop that destroys our peace, induces jealousy, and reduces self-esteem.
Others’ accomplishments and the desire to achieve similar success easily influence us.
Through this desire to emulate them, people set up internal benchmarks and compare themselves to others. They don’t pay attention to how they feel about themselves but become desperate if they don’t perform well in their endeavors, criticizing themselves needlessly.
The desire to blindly follow in someone else’s footsteps leads to self-depreciation. It detracts from your happiness and replaces it with insecurity and anxiety. It distracts you from your own success and focuses your attention on your failures.
Comparisons are a futile attempt to improve yourself.
Comparison is something that will never allow you to feel satisfied, even in your greatest achievements. An Olympic medal is the dream of every athlete. However, silver medalists do not feel as happy as bronze medalists because they often compare themselves with gold medalists.
The chain of expectations is endless, and so is comparison.
This tendency to continually weigh your abilities slowly drains your soul. In an attempt to emulate, you imitate, ultimately losing your potential.
What we fail to realise is that everyone has –
Personalised objectives
Different circumstances, and
Their own journey filled with unpredictable and unexpected challenges.
Each of us has a distinct learning curve and a unique trajectory to success.
So why do we often measure ourselves against such unrealistic benchmarks?
Oranges are not compared to apples.
You must not compare yourself because you are on a different journey.
It’s time to stop noticing your inadequacy and discover your inner potential. Take off your rose-tinted glasses and understand that no one is born with inherent talents alone…
Be grateful for what you have and turn your envy into inspiration.
You needn’t follow any example. You can be an example for many. Life never offers the same path to success. Be a trailblazer and chart your own course.